A reality we need to understand about grief is that grief is work.
The term “grief work” was coined by Eric Lindemann in the 1940s. In his research, he determined that grief was work because it “required the expenditure of both physical and emotional energy.” (Rando)
Grief work can be defined as the “activities associated with thinking through the loss, facing its reality, expressing the feelings and emotions experienced, and becoming re-involved in life.” (Worden)
Also, H. Norman Wright says that, “your grief will take more energy than you ever imagined and show in all spheres of your life.” (Wright)
In reality, grief is exhausting and processing the many spheres of grief is work. Unfortunately, grief is a process that requires every person to do his/her own work, and no one can do it for you. That’s why grief feels so exhausting and lonely.
For more information like this, check out Dr. Michael’s book, “Equipping the Church with Grief Ministry Skills.”
I so appreciate what you are doing. Even when you know a lot of these things about grief, it helps to hear a good, Christian friend talk about it. Thank you!
LikeLike
Thanks, Betty S. I so appreciate you being at the Grief & the Holidays seminar yesterday. It was good to see you. I know you experienced a lot of raw emotions, but sometimes that helps. I know you’ve been through a lot. Thanks for contacting us. If we can help, let us know.
LikeLike